I've received interesting comments, objections and points are worth pondering in my last post - "For Men Only". Herewith are some highlights, as follows :
(Gentleman, please help to reply on any responds of your comment, I can't speak for you. :) thank you.)
Ladies, is our turn to listen and to understand men better now.
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Bob Gentile :
I listen and try to be as sincere as I can BUT I tend not to HOLD on to EVERY detail, not out of being RUDE, I just forget and BOY do I hear it from past relationships --geesh You women DONT FORGET ANYTHING :-(
Take it easy on us boys, most of us are good.... (when we are sleeping) --hahaa no we are good for the most part BUT we are wired differently...
Top Cat :
Men talk simple & direct, men have no trouble understanding one another, it's basically GRUNT GRUNT.. oh yeah dude I get it.. grunt grunt.
Women on the other hand talk around stuff, it's like "you know the dresser in the other room, I'm thinking I'd like to change some things, maybe the color, or the knobs or do something with the lighting!! Men get lost in this conversation because we have short attention spans..
Next time say.. "honey I want a new lamp for the dresser"
Jay :
Women and men are definitely wired differently.Just watch what happens when they watch a movie together. Especially a romantic comedy. The woman will be crying and think the movie is soooo sweet. The guy will look bored. LOL
Wayne Allen Sallee :
It is true that women don't forget a thing, but it is always best when a woman is patient enough to let a guy "catch up" with his memory and enter real time.
Dave :
You have to stop your mind from picking up on key words that are others are saying and running with this in your own mind. You should listen with your ears your eyes and your heart.
Do not talk until the other person has stopped and wait for all their words to sink into your head before you open your mouth.
Men are different then women in many area of life, but that is what makes it all fun.
Matt :
Men are designed differently, for different reasons.
We are all equal but we all have different strengths. Men are designed with less emotional response probably because of the type of work and type of situations men find themselves in.
In the special forces military, women would probably question why and have second thoughts about what it is their doing, men just act and suffer silently.
Even though what you say is true, I think it is every man's responsibility to try and be a better listener. I also think it has to do with the influences a guy has growing up.
Sage :
Say what? For some reason I feel like I just received a 440 volt shock! I never have the surge suppressor hooked up when I need it.
G-Man :
Yes Pink Ginger, women are very much like the phone company.....
1.) They are not cheap to own.
2.) Mostly reliable, but they have been known to shut down.
3.) Sometimes all you get is static.
4.) They leave when a better offer comes along.
5.) If you don't pay, your cut off!
A LOT like women......G
Jeseem :
Hey ms.440V, solution is simple. : give big shocks. I don't think 12V can forget it :)
I don't think men are forgetful. its just that their priorities are different from women. so while a women may consider a b'day celebration more important, guys may consider a vacation trip or long drive more important.
Goadman :
Think men are more non-verbal than women. (perhaps that was expressed in your presentation.) Not everything that happens has to be expressed in words!
Tom Bailey :
I think men listen better when the content is meaningful.
For example a woman wants to just be heard and a man wants to solve problems. The man has to listen but is not "supposed to" offer solutions. Not being able to give solutions is the frustrating part for the man.
They hear more than you think. If the "subject" is interesting a man's ears will perk up.
Jac :
I am a good listener but even then at times I feel that woman are impatient ?
The opinion is mine and I wonder, as a woman, if you can take my remark patiently ?
Steve :
I do notice that communication between men and women is sometimes a challenge - and sometimes not a challenge - depends on the individual people and conversation.
I do believe that where people are determines their ability to focus, receive and also to give. If one speaks and the other listens, no problem. But if one speaks and the other is thinking about other things or daydreaming or not available to listen for any number of reasons, there can be a missed connection.
And I think any gender can exemplify that.
I am back!! with a few extra pounds. ;) I went home to celebrate Chinese New Year with family and friends.
